That undefined term called Friendship

It is not very often that one wonders about friends and friendship. It is not very often that one sits and thinks about the first time you met someone and how from mere acquaintances you became best buddies. But somehow, after an exhausting day today, I did just that. I started remembering how, when , where I became friends with the incredible people I have in my life, and I found no connection or pattern.

I do not know what triggers two people to come close. I do not know how they remain close despite fundamental differences in their tastes, choices and preferences. And I definitely do not know what holds them together, year after year, when everything about them is changed.

Sometimes you have no clue whatsoever about how the friendship started because you are just five when it all began. You remember talking for hours to her afterwards, but the beginning is always blurry at best. You remember thinking the world ended when she moved away, and that you were God's favourite person when she moved right back again in your city. You remember cursing the syllabus and freaking out before exams together. You remember following the policy of never discussing the paper after exams religiously together. Most importantly, you remember "together" for fifteen years, and know for a fact there are atleast three decades more of it.

Sometimes, you are so busy feeling lonely and sorry for your self, that you completely overlook your future ally sitting a couple of benches away. After a million yawns over the not so interesting lectures, one fine day you realize that you have found a crimson rose in the endless desert and didn't even notice it till now. And you end up spending almost every waking hour of the day together after that. And there is never a lack of topics to discuss and debate. Never a shortage of things to do and places to visit. Never an awkward silence, never a chance of distrust, never the fear of betrayal.

Sometimes again, you don't even need to meet a person to be a friend. You get to know each other while spamming a common friend's social network account. You  then exchange email ids and begin talking. You realize both have the same object of desire- "chilly chicken" and BAAM!! you are best friends!! Sometimes that's how effortless it is. And who you thought was just a guy with a common motive ( which was to irritate the hell out of the person with that unfortunate social network account) turns out to be a "secret-keeper". You know you can be yourself around this guy and you know he might be questioning your sanity for it, but will never hold that against you. :)

And sometimes all it takes is a "click-card"!!
(You know you can writes pages about this one, but somehow it will never be enough.)

Sometimes, after spending the whole of your junior high and half of your high school listening to his name being announced as the winner for almost every academic competition the school participates in, and secretly  wondering who the guy is, you meet him, you know him, you click with him, you get into scrapes with teachers with him, you make fun of him, you make fun with him, you trust him, you respect him, you know he is another of those "gems" and you know he is "fundamentally forever friends".

Sometimes, you don't remember how you became friends. You don't care what the world says about you two- about how every time you talk, someone or the other is always ready with a comment. You know you have handled them well for the last sixteen years, and you tell them to bring it on for the next sixty, your friendship will be just fine.


And sometimes you have nothing but the computer lab to thank!

Sometimes, you see a lanky boy standing five classes away from yours in the corridor, and you wonder how a friendship might be. You wonder, and wonder, and wonder some more, till the last two years of your school life ends with just a handful of conversations. Two years down the line you are miraculously fast friends and you have nothing or no one to account for it. What can I say, if its meant to be, its meant to be!!

And sometimes, there are just so many people, and so many memories, that it is not possible to record them all.

Friendship is undefined, friendship is beautiful, and sometimes, it hurts like hell. But at the end of the day, friendship is what makes the journey a little simpler, the life a little better, and the heart a lot heartier!!

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